tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665151.post116855602959310849..comments2023-05-23T01:17:04.466-07:00Comments on KPAT FM - The Pattyopolis Network: Reinventing the WheelPhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00885430735047957603noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665151.post-1169153666961837672007-01-18T12:54:00.000-08:002007-01-18T12:54:00.000-08:00If you're not interested than you're not intereste...If you're not interested than you're not interested. Don't worry about how it looks. <BR/><BR/>I've been there and I'm telling you it was a mistake! I went out with this guy on a whim and didn't find out he was disabled until I got to the restaurant. I didn't want it to appear that I was brushing him off because of his disability so I moved forward and I was miserable! The only perk was parking spaces and front seats at concerts -- other than that ... NAH! It was kind of sad because he thought that he was still <I>the man</I> he was before he became disabled.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665151.post-1169143313359206862007-01-18T10:01:00.000-08:002007-01-18T10:01:00.000-08:00@ Smoothie: Thank you for your well oiled comments...@ Smoothie: <BR/><BR/>Thank you for your well oiled comments. And thank you for your very mature answer. . .<BR/><BR/>I think the interpretation of this, based on some other comments, as well, is that I am thinking of giving him half a chance. However, I don't care for him anymore, not because he is in the chair, but because years before that, my romantic interest dissolved; He just doesn't do it for me anymore, chair or not.Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00885430735047957603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665151.post-1169128056478567942007-01-18T05:47:00.000-08:002007-01-18T05:47:00.000-08:00yes...It took me awhile to anser your qustion b/c ...yes...<BR/><BR/>It took me awhile to anser your qustion b/c i had to really reflect on it. You have to ask yourself what is it youre lookin for in your soulmate? <BR/><BR/>If you want someone whos nice and funny and has a great personality with decent looks. A disability wont stop you. If eye candy's your thing this it could definatly casue a problem. Either way its expected that you have invited drama into your life thast some may not be emotionally strong enough to deal with. If the person with the disability doesnt use that said disability as a crutch(bad play on words) then i say give him or her a chance. If te person isnt comfortable in there own skin yet though, walk away.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665151.post-1168980416482340992007-01-16T12:46:00.000-08:002007-01-16T12:46:00.000-08:00shit that is supposed to read "people dont adopt c...shit that is supposed to read "people dont adopt children with disabilities often"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665151.post-1168980352184683002007-01-16T12:45:00.000-08:002007-01-16T12:45:00.000-08:00wow, very interesting. this is going to sound so f...wow, very interesting. this is going to sound so freakin dumb..and maybe scary. but i used to imagine my ex in a wheelchair. i think it was mainly because he acted so much like he didnt need me, and i wondered what it would be like if he truly needed me and all these superficial chicks stopped chasing his ass. remember "diary of a mad black woman"??? Yea i was sort of feeling that way. I dont think i would START a relationship with a man who was bound to a chair. I feel like i would be forcing myself into a stressful life. but i would continue with my man if he had an accident. Its like this...as shitty as it sounds. When people adopt children with disabilities (often) but if god for bid they have a child who has disabilities, they tough it out...people dont usually adopt a blind dog, but when their dog goes blind, they dont give him up. Do you see what I mean. Its hard for me to say without feeling shallow.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665151.post-1168977257697765842007-01-16T11:54:00.000-08:002007-01-16T11:54:00.000-08:00now i think in all fairness i should say that i ha...now i think in all fairness i should say that i had heard that some men in a wheelchair can still get it up...<BR/>and umm...who knows it might be a ride to remember cuz i bet they know how to get real creative...A.u.n.t. Jackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06342245586271716564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665151.post-1168966606288288492007-01-16T08:56:00.000-08:002007-01-16T08:56:00.000-08:00@ Phil:LMAO @ I still feel like everyone's still f...@ Phil:<BR/><BR/>LMAO @ I still feel like everyone's still faking the funk to a certain degree when it comes to this topic because face it, none of us want to go to hell. I heart you! You know that. . .<BR/><BR/>BUT<BR/><BR/>In terms of good luck, ain't nothing going DOWN because I don't have those types of physical feelings for him anymore. ..<BR/><BR/>BUT<BR/><BR/>You make some excellent points, as always. . .Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00885430735047957603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665151.post-1168930266718208732007-01-15T22:51:00.000-08:002007-01-15T22:51:00.000-08:00Mannnnnn, I still feel like everyone's still fakin...Mannnnnn, I still feel like everyone's still faking the funk to a certain degree when it comes to this topic because face it, none of us want to go to hell.<BR/><BR/>To that logic, I think if most of us were already in a relationship with someone, you can't leave if they BECOME disabled for no other reason than facing automatic eternal damnation if you do. I can see God now, "Why are you even in line after that ish you pulled leaving Mia post leg amputation?"<BR/><BR/>Not to mention, if you're in a relationship, you're already emotionally and mentally attached so it would be hard for you to jet when they BECOME disabled.<BR/><BR/>Being "honest," I think our uppity ass minds have a way of subconciously keeping us from falling for ALREADY moderate-to-severely physically disabled people because we know the potential stress that can come with it, that will be transferred to the relationship, that most of us will not be able to voluntarily handle (hell, as seen in other comments, it's hard enough these days dealing with able-bodied crazy people).<BR/><BR/>As for your situation P, you're screwed simply for the fact that you seem to care about what he's thinking. <BR/><BR/>Although he's physically disabled, his male ego is very much abled, otherwise, he wouldn't be mentally putting targets all over your face for his tongue.<BR/><BR/>Rather ten years ago or now, he KNOWS nothing was/is wrong with him (if his mind works like mine) for him not to be in a situation with you similar to that in the illustrative photo you so kindly provided...<BR/><BR/>So his mind will let him KNOW that the ONLY reason you don't want to "push him around" is because you don't like him in that chair, at which point, he'll think you're a discriminatory disabled-loathing bitch and be sure to tell all of his friends, family, and most importantly, your family if he ever runs into any of them, how heartless you are.<BR/><BR/>BUT, that's just my "honest" opinion. Good post and more importantly, good luck...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665151.post-1168913127954510152007-01-15T18:05:00.000-08:002007-01-15T18:05:00.000-08:00@ Tam:OMG!! I WAS TRYING TO REMEMBER HIS NAME AND...@ Tam:<BR/><BR/>OMG!! I WAS TRYING TO REMEMBER HIS NAME AND YOU KNEW IT. . .I was going to put it in my post but I couldn't remember his name: I could equally pinch you and hug you for remembering this fool's name from back in the day. . .<BR/><BR/>Ladies and Gent: Just so you can know who Tammy-Tam is talking about, there is a fifty percent chance, (present company included), that most unattached (and some attached women have came across Michael Concepcion: He uses the same M.O. that Tam is talking about and then boo-yah! You see what he's working with. I'm not saying that to be funny, it's just that reading this brings back so many memories. . .<BR/><BR/>@ Tam and Mistress: Thank both of you guys for being honest. . .I just think, that like you said, Tam, that it depends on the situation, but I can't (at least maybe because I have not been placed IN the situation), think of one. And to the Mistress, Do you possibly think that your hitachi could hook on to something there? :( Well, okay, okay. . .Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00885430735047957603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665151.post-1168903103777433432007-01-15T15:18:00.000-08:002007-01-15T15:18:00.000-08:00I have no problem being honest, I personally would...I have no problem being honest, I personally wouldn't date a man in a wheelchair. There are just too many physical limitations. I think a disable person needs someone in their life who is patient and low-maintenance! I am not a patient, low-maintenance woman by any stretch of the imagination and I don't feel I could meet the needs of a disabled man. I also don't believe my needs would be met. <BR/><BR/>I think having compassion for them is a different ballgame than being in a relationship.Mahogany Misfithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18221007561742437451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665151.post-1168900211600302492007-01-15T14:30:00.000-08:002007-01-15T14:30:00.000-08:00Ok, think back to "We're all in the same gang"...d...Ok, think back to "We're all in the same gang"...dang, I just made myself feel old. Michael Concepcion was his name...and he is in a wheelchair.<BR/><BR/>I was maybe 18 or 19. I was rollin down Crenshaw on a Sunday night (hehehe) when this black on black Benz pulled up beside me. The driver was cute, but way more rugged than my taste. He wanted to holler at my girlfriend in the passenger seat. The PASSENGER wanted to holler at ME. (insert blank stare) Now, for those of you who know what dude looks like, he ain't MUCH to look at...wheelchair or not. <BR/><BR/>I didn't know who he was, but he insisted that I get out of the car to come and talk to him - and I refused (because you know I thought I was hot shit and if he wanted ME, he had to come to me). So his boy gets out and get his chair...dayum...he's in a WHEELCHAIR. He introduces himself and I politely smiled and we exchanged numbers.<BR/><BR/>He called for a while and kept asking me out, but honestly at that age, I was WAY too young to even consider fuckin with a dude in a chair. <BR/><BR/>If XL ended up in a chair, I would stay. But that's because I'm already HERE and I love him. If I were single and met a man who was disabled (I met a dude with one eye while XL and I were separated), I don't think I could do it. Not because I'm shallow, I just don't think I could. But I suppose it would depend on the situation...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665151.post-1168880438610552212007-01-15T09:00:00.000-08:002007-01-15T09:00:00.000-08:00my friend M did and she really like him. gave him...my friend M did and she really like him. gave him some and everything... i don't think i could go there... but then again i've never been put in that possition so i don't know what i would do if it came to that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665151.post-1168650279495256062007-01-12T17:04:00.000-08:002007-01-12T17:04:00.000-08:00@ Glam. . .Hell yeah someone with mental health ch...@ Glam. . .<BR/><BR/>Hell yeah someone with mental health challenges counts as being disabled. . .<BR/><BR/>PS: Sorry, but LMAO @ your "she had no shortage of men pushing her around, don't know if it was her settlement check or her". That's was funny I know maybe I shouldn't have laughed but I'm being honest!Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00885430735047957603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665151.post-1168648531974000162007-01-12T16:35:00.000-08:002007-01-12T16:35:00.000-08:00well does someone with mental health issues count ...well does someone with mental health issues count as being disabled because if so i dated someone who was bi polar and lemme tell you something...never again! <BR/><BR/>(i mean he was getting a disability check and everything...)<BR/><BR/>physical disabilities have never crossed my mind to be honest. i mean there was a girl when i was growing up who got shot and she was beautiful and never had a shortage of men to wheel her around. <BR/><BR/>she always had her hair and nails done and was always dressed fresh to death..i don't know if it was settlement money or men though:-)<BR/><BR/>i can't say that i would or wouldn't date someone disabled depending on what the disability was and my own frame of mind at the time.<BR/><BR/>my brother worked in an old folks home and he said the number of young women pushing older men around was amazing....so i guess it could happen even when you're not looking for it!<BR/><BR/>sorry i blogged on your blog;-)A.u.n.t. Jackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06342245586271716564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665151.post-1168631658789126712007-01-12T11:54:00.000-08:002007-01-12T11:54:00.000-08:00@ Miz JJ:Yeah, I've been knowing this guy for a mi...@ Miz JJ:<BR/><BR/>Yeah, I've been knowing this guy for a minute. And I don't mind going out with him, because he is a friend, and even after our pillow talk subsided, we were still friends, and we went out and stuff, strictly platonic.<BR/><BR/>I just don't know what prompted him to ask me. Was he asking on a friendship level, or was he calling himself trying to date me? And that's where I was puzzled, and felt a little awkward.<BR/><BR/>You know, I am not a sucker for a sob story, but I do often wonder how people feel about disabled people and dating, and more interesting enough, why? <BR/><BR/>Thank you for (and I mentioned this on your post) for your refreshing honesty.Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00885430735047957603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18665151.post-1168630614101866632007-01-12T11:36:00.000-08:002007-01-12T11:36:00.000-08:00If you do not feel that way for him you can't fake...If you do not feel that way for him you can't fake it. And you do not want to avoid him just tell him that you are interested him as just a friend. There is no need to explain why. If he asks if it is about his disability you can tell him the truth. No it is not about his being in a wheelchair. <BR/><BR/>I will be honest. I do not think I would date a dude in a wheelchair, but I have never been in that situation. It would depend on the dude and I guess how I felt about him. I know that if I feel really strongly about someone nothing can get in the way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com