Thursday, May 25, 2006

The Wind Beneath Your Wings

I don't do new age.

Let me repeat myself for the sake of clarification. I.Don't.Do.New.Age and the catch phrases associated with them. I'm not into anything new. As a matter of fact, because I personally believe that there is nothing new under the sun. Now, I DO do progressive, that's an entirely different subject.

With that said, after numerous conversations with a good friend, concerning current issues with our friends, things we have experienced and felt (and still feel), I firmly believe in the connectivity factors one associates with finding your soulmate and/or twin flame.

I believe there is a difference between loving someone, being in love, and finding an incredible connection that exists spiritually, mentally, physically, and is dayum near sacred. The connectivity factor that exists without words, crosses language, ethnic (though P, like others, loves the dark meat). I full on believe that many, many, times, because of other factors that are in place (distance, economics, another spouse, children, etc), the relationship does not pan out. Often times people say, if someone is for you, then you will end up being with that person.

Not necessarily true, in my humble opinion. Here are some people from movies, that I believe, the couples demonstrated soulmate-like traits:

  • Same Time, Next Year
  • Love and Basketball
  • The Good Earth
  • Message in a Bottle (the end of this movie was wack. I was traumatized for days)
  • Forrest Gump
  • An Affair to Remember
  • The Notebook
  • Ghost
  • Jason's Lyric
  • Coming to America (hehe)
I can go on and on but you get the point. Don't you?

The point I am saying, is that I believe that there is this intense emotional, spiritual attraction that you have to a person that transcends the physical realm. You can't imagine what it was like NOT knowing them if you have experienced this, and if you haven't, you can't imagine feeling this way about ANYONE. You hear what they hear. You feel what they are feeling. You know what they are thinking. You know what to say, when to say it, and why to them, and vice versa. You wake up in the middle of the night and you know it has something to do with them. Sometimes you will tell them something or they will tell you something later and you're like "I knew that", or "Oh. . .That's why I felt that way". It's incredible. And sometimes overwhelming.

In our day to day relationships, the love that builds can become strong, comforting, and, to a point, more stable than the love we have for our soulmates (if, in fact, our mate that we have now is NOT our soulmate). However, there is that one, that feels when you feel, knows when you know. If you have seen any of the above movies, you will know how these feelings oft times transcend any and everything. Every wonder why you feel what you feel when you see these movies?

Do you believe in Soulmates? Do you have one? Are you with them? If not, do you think about them? Do you see or talk to them sometimes?

Due to the nature of this broadcast, K-PAT respects your privacy and will accept anonymous contributors. (But the suspense will kill me and the viewing audience).

41 comments:

Unruly Brown said...

Fiiiiirrrrrrst!

chelle said...

I have a soulmate and yes I'm fortunate enough to be with him. It is so crazy because we are soooo different, but at the same time so much alike. I can honestly say that he is the other half of me. The part that makes me a well rounded woman.

Where I am kinda straight forward and always by the book, he's more the just relax, spontaneous type of person. It's amazing that you can have that type of bond with someone that is not blood related to you.

P said...

@ The Storm:

You are a H.A.M.

@ Chelle: Yes, I know.

Unruly Brown said...

:D hehehe!

To answer the question though, I do believe in soul mates, but I am not 100% certain that I could identify him if I found him. I have a 'friend' that simply CANNOT be without me, and I find it equally difficult to be without him. I actually blogged about losing him a few weeks ago, but he came back so fast that it was as if I never pushed him away. lol He is the one who somehow knows whenever I'm not okay. I don't even have to talk to or see him, and he'll send me a text message or call asking if I'm okay. When he calls, all I have to do is say "hello" and he knows if something is wrong, and even weirder, I get the same feeling when something is wrong with him! I can't figure out how we're so intuned that we are able to do that. So many times just being near him or hearing his voice has lifted my spirits, and his touch soothes me in ways nothing and nobody else can. And he responds the same way to me, but I don't know if that's just love or the deeper connection. I honestly don't know that I'd go so far as to say he's my soul mate. If he is, I can't call it.

Whirlwind said...

I believe in Soul Mates, but even more Soul Families. I've tried so hard to write something on this subject but it's so hard to cascade words on this subject.

An article by John Payne states it very well. http://www.innerself.com/Relationships/soul.htm

He says "The net effect of a soul mate on your life will always be positive, even if you cannot see it at the time. For example, many have the notion that a soul mate relationship will be the ideal relationship, full of harmony and love. However, a relationship with a soul mate is likely to be challenging!

The whole point of a soul mate turning up in your life is to show you to yourself. That is the purpose of all human relationships. You learn through viewing in the mirror. The Law of Attraction works in every aspect of your life, and therefore each person drawn into your life is there through vibration, and nothing else. They are present because your vibration and their vibration are matched in some way.

As we have said before, you are growth-seeking beings. So many of you get confused when you meet the person of your dreams, fall happily in love, declare, "This is my soul mate," and then have to pick up the pieces a few years down the road when the relationship breaks up or the person you loved turns out to have some problems or personality traits you do not care for. However, this was your soul mate, and you have many!"

oh, and I know I'm with one of mine......

~W

Paula D. said...

I definitely believe in the idea of a soulmate & hope to find mine.

Unruly Brown said...

DAAAAAAMN @ Whirlwind. That's deep! Thanks for that link. I just shared what you posted with my friend, and you've got us both going "Hmmmmmmmmm!"

P said...

@ The Storm:

Check yo email.

Anonymous said...

I plead the fifth especially right now.

P said...

HAHAHA@ Anonymous.

The suspense is killing me, likka said.

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

u know i do

Thoughts of a Southern gal said...

Even though I read your blog almost everyday, this is my first time posting. Love your writing.

I believe in soulmates...Am I with my soulmate? I don't know. Sometimes I think we were meant for each other but some days it's crazy

The Phoenix aka ThatGirlTam said...

Indeed Wendy's comment was a good one, but I too have something to add - as once told to me by a woman named Morgana (who gave me a past life reading - if you've never gotten one, it makes for INTERESTING reading for SURE!)

Anyhoo...Companion Soulmates usually pre-choose to interact with each other for any given lifetime PRIOR to birth. Since the Spirit is not influenced by "physical appearances" and such, then it does happen on occasion that someone we SPIRITUALLY LOVE and want to be with before being born does not appeal to us as much (if at all on occasion) once our EGO likes/dislikes/wants/needs enter the equation.

Most people assume the exact opposite. They assume a Companion Soulmate is the person who drives us wild with passion; who is our ideal specimen and all that nonsense. This is precisely why so many people bypass a kind but boring, for example, true Companion Soulmate and fall head over heels for a loser who is not remotely a Companion Soulmate but who is able to elicit intense emotions/desires within them nonetheless - most of which are usually initially based on sex appeal or looks.

I am guilty of believing the latter at one point in my life. I ALSO believe in Soul Families because there are many people in my life that I know for sure that we were connected from a previous life. We all connect to one another for various reasons. If you look at the larger picture, you too may see that the people in your life are not just there fore convenience or by accident (there are no accidents).

And I know for sure that my soul family grew when I became a blogger. All things, relationships and chance meetings - happen for a reason.

P said...

@ The Phoenix:

Can you translate that for folks that don't do re-incarnation and readings, please?

Thank you.

Miss Ahmad said...

i believe in soul mates...although I have come to believe that my soul mates thus far have not been life companions...

I have sister friends for life! My girl Kai, since we was knee high to a grass hopper, no matter how far apart we've been she's apart of my very essence and I feel her...on some non verbal, you was just on my mind shit.

I have loved men who were soul mates, just straight up knew as soon as I looked at them that they would be apart of my life forever...and they are, come hell or high waters those are my dudes.

I am not certain that I think soul mate equals life mate though...i think that as we grow and inner life grows we attract people who are right for us at that time, a perfect match for where we are, and sometimes as quickly as they enter our lives they are gone....

P said...

@ Nisa:

Re: "I am not certain that I think soul mate equals life mate though...i think that as we grow and inner life grows we attract people who are right for us at that time, a perfect match for where we are, and sometimes as quickly as they enter our lives they are gone.... "

You are right.on.with.that. However, it sure is nice to end up with them.

Mizrepresent said...

P,

Nice post...and yes i believe in soulmates...and i know what you mean by those movies....sometimes i wish someone would feel like that about me...it's been awhile, but hey...my life's not over yet...so i'll keep on believing that he's out there, somewhere.

The Sarccastik Variable Why said...

i know i got my soulmate...we are totally different yet the same in some other ways...scorpio&virgo...have a good weekend...

i like liquor and tv said...

No I don't believe in soulmates. I believe that there are certain people out there that will put up with us..and we will put up with them. But that's about it.

chele said...

Honestly, I have never believed in the concept of SOULMATES. Probably because everytime I hear someone use the term it sounds so corny, fake, trite and overused. It really makes me throw up in my mouth a little bit.

I will admit, however, that the way you have defined the term here makes me consider rethinking my position.

I don't believe that I am with my soulmate. Probably because I struggle with that term. I am with someone that I love and respect and connect with on an emotional level. We have our trials but I'd rather have hard times with him than good times with someone else (Thanks Luther)

Cocoa Girl said...

I do not believe in soulmates, because I do not believe in the notion of there being only one perfect match for me.

I also do not believe in "perfect" anything, besides that which comes from God...and I don't even understand all of that.

Great post!

P said...

@ Cocoa:

You can have more than one soulmate.

And it doesn't mean that person is the only one for you. It only means that you have connected with an incredible person that you can feel and see in the most spectacular way.

Cocoa Girl said...

Oh, okay...

Guess I was going with the Vanilla and Hollywood versions...

Do you think Lacy and Scott Peterson once thought they were Soulmates?

Sorry, I *sound* real jaded right now...

P said...

Cocoa: You are a H.A.M, you know that?

Carmell said...

hmmmm..... yes, i believe in soulmates. i don't think i thought i was with my soulmate at first but hes getting there. is that possible? i believed that one person was my soulmate. and think of him often but thats as far as it goes...

Miss Ahmad said...

Cocoa stop being bitter dammit!

Sangindiva said...

I don't know if I believe in soulmates or not.
But if I had to go by your definition P, I'd have to give it a firm MAYBE.
But if it is true...I'd love to find a "few" of my own :)

Cocoa Girl said...

Hehehe...

Juicy77 said...

Hmmmm, I think I believe in soulmates. (It depends on what day you ask the question). And I believe I have met mine. And nope, I'm not with him. Oh well.

DP said...

The notion of soulmates is indicative of some magical connection.

Magic alone will not work.


Getting something this complicated right requires hard work.

Lots of it.


I believe in the notion of soulmates but not in the sense that it makes a relationship easy.

P said...

@dp:

It's usually never easy. Relationships hardly ever are; What is being referenced here is prolly more pertaining to connectivity issues, versus day to day living.

Hell, sometimes I can't even stand myself.

Cocoa Girl said...

Hell, sometimes I can't even stand myself.

Ditto.

Cocoa Girl said...

Hehehe...

Lāā said...

I would like to believe in soulmates, but I haven't met mine yet so I wonder if they truly exist. But I do think that people are put in your life (forgive me for being cliche-ish) for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Like what Phoenix said there are no accidents and everyone who is in your life has a purpose.

mrs.tj said...

I'm not sure if I beleive in soul mates and I guess that would be wierd coming from me, since I have been with a man for the past 13 years that has been down for me for what ever. But that was due to hard work, sweat, tears and sometimes blood! This mess just didn't happen, we made it happen. Forced the square peg into the round hole! HA! I guess we were destined to be together and we can talk without speaking words and even finish each other's sentences but it was not the happy, lovey dovey soul mate ride that I expected. I will say, that he is as close to a soul mate I ever expect to be. He is my heart and I will go thru all of the cussin and fightin to be with him all over again. 2 libras together...geez! It gets crazy at times. Complete opposites. But it gets better every day.
tj

The Phoenix aka ThatGirlTam said...

I think people still are trapped by the misconception that "soul mate" means you only have ONE PERFECT PERSON...that simply is NOT the case. In this lifetime (and yes, I DO believe in past lives...what witch DOESN'T?) hehehe...ummm where was I? Oh yeah...in this lifetime I have encountered at least 4 MALE soul mates and perhaps 5 or 6 FEMALE soul mates (who are now what I refer to as my soul FAMILY - thanks Wendy for the title when I didn't have one!) I have connections with ALL of these people in ways that I have connected with no other.

Prior to my true understanding of the term, I didn't think my husband was one of them...but now I understand quite differently that HE IS...it's more than love, familiarity and children that keeps us together.

nikki said...

i believe in soulmates, but i believe there is more than one for me in the world. i don't think having a soulmate in one's life makes it easy, but i think the bond and understanding makes it a helluva lot easier than it is when one is with someone who ISN'T one's soulmate.

i found myself in that situation. great guy on so many levels...never really understood me. made the relationship even more difficult and i think that's why it ultimately failed. there is an understanding between soulmates that can't be replicated.

chris said...

i believe in soulmates not just a soulmate.

Jaimie said...

P:

I don't know about soulmates. I believe in God, and I believe God puts people in our path for a purpose, so if this is a soulmate, then it is a soulmate. I'm confused...if you can't tell.

Now, at this time in my life, I can't imagine my life without James, and we aren't even married. When I first met him I felt as if I found someone who truly "got me". Like never before. I have loved before, and been really caught up with different people, but there was a connection missing. With those people, I lived in uncertainity, knowing it would eventually one day end.
I've only known for sure about James. And I knew within 2 weeks, really.

Dee said...

yeah I belive in the whole soul mate thing......but after being arried 123,456,321,888,999 years and in a relationship for 2 years with.a.negroe.who.4.got.2.tell.me.he.had.a.wife.back in.dallas..........

oh shit I forgot where I was going with this..............

yeah yeah soul mates yada yadda!!!!!

Joshua said...

When I met my girl, it happened instantly, with the first hello. She felt it too, because her first comment was- "Man are we in trouble". For the past two years, we have been through hell and back- trauma, stress, forces trying to keep us apart. And yet- 2 years later, our love has only grown.

Now it's to the point that when I am not with her or in her presence, I crumble.

She makes me want to be a better person.

She makes me want to dance and sing.

She makes me want to spend the rest of my days with her.

She's my soulmate.