Wednesday, May 03, 2006

You Betta Ax Somebody

Normally, I don't hoo-bang on folks, because I leave that to the experts more tamed in the sista girl art of telling it like it T.I.S.


A recent post that I read from time to time (a great post) by the way, always gave way to a blog war.

So, without further adieu, this is how it all went down. . . Blue comments-P, Black comments, other. The names have been changed to protect the innocent. (Myself). HAHA!


YAH, I'm first!

If you could only see my head right now, I feel like a bobblehead doll.

Whether or not what you said is positive or popular (and I think that it is both), hearing it from the horse's mouth is priceless. My name is not Cleo and I'm not a psychic, so I love hearing what men want.

And, I think this is simple enough and speaks volumes.

As for the cooking, I think that's especially good because you want to make sure that she cooked it herself, and knows what she is doing.

One dollop of sour cream, coming up!

Posted by:
P Wednesday, May 03, 2006 at 07:25 AM

good list of suggestions! Love that list for a potential mate...
Posted by: Wednesday, May 03, 2006 at 08:10 AM

I always love to hear what a man wants. Some of the things you suggested are not appropriate for the woman who is just dating, though. Nor is it appropriate for a non-married couple, IMO. I think #2, 6, 7, and 9, are great for dating. I think #1 & 4 should be saved for the monogamous relationship. I think #8, can’t be expected of all women. In this day and age some women just won’t/can’t/SHOULDN’T (you’d be better off if they didn’t) clean. #3, 5, and 10 are definitely a benefit of marriage/engagement/or life partner (for those that don’t believe in marriage). You shouldn’t be giving out freak pics to a man who may not be the one. If he’s not, then you can expect your pic to be plastered on every media forum when the shit hits the fan. “Dropping it off” is something that requires a lot of trust and stability, afterall the woman is completely giving of herself when she does something like this. Every man loves a little freak, but women need to protect themselves first and their innocence. When you find the right man you both will be a lot better off if you saved these activities for him alone. Buying a man draws, is like claiming your territory. If you’re not sure if you’d like to buy the property why start decorating it…LOL.
Posted by:
Wednesday, May 03, 2006 at 08:12 AM

I respect your comments - But I think that he is inferring what men want in a relationship. I think, we as women, tend to make things more complicated. I don't believe that if we were to put a list of things we want out of men, they would say "Well, no, I think this, that, and the other". They would be like "Is that what you want, Ok, cool".

If I want to learn how to cook, I'm going to ask Patti Labelle, Not Jessica Simpson. So, if I want to know what a man wants, I am going to ask a man, I'm not going to ask a woman who thinks she knows what a man wants.

Bottom line. This is not rocket science. I don't think many men (and again, I'm not trying to speak for them) would NOT co-sign to this list.

To me, this is spelled out better to me than wheel of fortune.

PS: Who says women are innocent? That's a social construct designed to make the male the predator and the woman innocent of all charges. Want proof? Look at the sentences these female teacher predators get for having UNLAWFUL SEX with children. Do you think that would happen to a man.

Look at what happens when a woman kills her children (she's mentally ill) versus a man (domestic violence)

As a matter of fact, I think you have provided me with the idea for my next post, so I thank you for that.
Posted by:
P Wednesday, May 03, 2006 at 09:38 AM

@P - I think your response to me is totally uncalled for. If a man lets me know what he would like from me, then I think it is only fair for me to voice what I am willing to do, and how I feel about what he wants. This is an open forum, to open up dialogue and exchange ideas after all. Who are you to try and quiet me? I didn’t claim to know what a man wants, I simply stated what I, as a woman, am willing and not willing to do. Please don’t put words in my mouth. If I, as a woman, put a list out there of what I want, I would definitely like to hear how the men felt about it; what they thought was great, and what they thought was outlandish. How else will I grow? If we were all ‘yes men’, coming up in here nodding our heads, and agreeing with each other on every point then we would have no dimension. The goal should not be to think alike, but to act in our common interests. I think your denial of women’s innocence and use of the current media coverage of a few depraved women to support that, demonizes all women. We are different (men and women), we have different roles in our current society, and we shouldn’t forget that.
Posted by:
Wednesday, May 03, 2006 at 10:30 AM

Your interpretation of what I said is incorrect.
Five short things:
1. I'm not going to engage in a blog war. Unnecessary.
2. I stated my opinions, and that is my right as well.
3. I'm not bitter about anything you said. (See number two).
4. I'm out.
5. You can comment after this if you want. I'm not interested in getting the last word.

This is K-PAT talking now.

Bitch, please. This is HIS interpretation of what a man wants. And, considering he IS a man, I think he is the expert in the field. Hell, no wonder why the brother is on the verge, all those directives you gave. Do this, do that. Do half of number one, do two thirds of number four, FUCK!

I JUST TOLD HER ASS that I respected her opinion. But I thought maybe I was stupid, so I decided to look up the word "Respect".

Respect: a relation or reference to a particular thing or situation; remarks having respect to an an act of giving particular attention : CONSIDERATION: high or special regard : ESTEEM the quality or state of being esteemed:expressions of respect or deference.

And who the hell is she telling folks what should and should not be said on their blog: Re: Um, I always love to hear what a man wants. Some of the things you suggested are not appropriate for the woman who is just dating, though. Nor is it appropriate for a non-married couple, IMO.

You dayum right IMO. Opinions are just like assholes, everyone has one. So why are you telling me what I should and should not feel about women. Too much Lifetime. Now, my approach with speaking with her was not to slash her down or clown her. I was just indicating that this is what a MAN said that A MAN wants from A WOMAN. I'm sure that all of the denominations are interchangeable. Hell it's like a FICO score, you win some and you lose some. Doesn't mean you have to do them all. The brother was just laying down some general criteria from a man's perspective. Take it or leave it. I chose to take it, she chose to toss it up like a salad. And that is her right. But DO NOT go hoo-banging on me over some bullshit, I gives a dayum this is some old school Southern Cali ghetto Comptonetta girl coming out of me.

You got me mixed up. You better ax somebody.

By the way, if in fact YOU, who seems to have a hair up your ass, decide to come by, take a detour and see how a genuine phoenix brings it to the table.


The Phoenix aka ThatGirlTam said...


((LQQKIN around to whoop someone's ass))

'The hell?? I haven't been over there to comment on his topic for today, but you betta baleeve I'm bout to roll over there and add my 5 Dollars! Somebody got that shit twisted and I've got PMS. I have no time for bullshit...

((LQQKIN around))

Where that bitch at???

chele said...

That was hilarious. Why the hell was she protesting so hard? She's making it sound as if you spit in her face. Girlfriend should get over herself. So in her words, you have demonized me by saying that women aren't innocent ... WTF?

The Phoenix aka ThatGirlTam said...

btw, YAY!!! I'm FIRST!!!

Miss Ahmad said...

oh lawd the LBC Crew is getting HYPHY! it's about to get unpredictable...i might have to cruise on over and see what all the hype is about!

Damn P came about blazing today.

Is everybody PMSing or is it just me?

Unruly Brown said...

Emerge, my ass. Somebody best SUBMERGE with the quickness before it REALLY gets crunk around here!! Bitch, please, INDEED! *Dap* @ K-PAT!

P said...

Phoenix: Good Looking Out!

Chele: What I do. Man! I did-ent even do noth-en.

Ahmad: Yeah, I am PMS'ing, but (in my best Whitney Houston Voice) "I'm not dealing with this TODAYYY!"

Tia: Can I borrow your pic, because you look seriously crunk on that picture!

The Phoenix aka ThatGirlTam said...

I posted my response to DPM's post...go check it out...

T. Cas said...

whoa... I got your back if it goes down P.

Msnhim said...

Awww shit its about to go down!!!!! LOL

J. G. said...

O HELL no she didn't, I'm with the Phoenix bitch betta watch out!

First off if you are picking and choosing what you want to do or willing to do for YOUR man than most likly you really DON'T have one. Let me tell you if I were a man and I was dating a chick like that one I'd be like hell no you roll out sista girl!

Girl I thought you were busy this morning, shit I think I PMSing to!!!

dpm said...

I just want a beer, some home cooked butternut squash soup, a pack of new drawlz, and a nipple pic.

Unruly Brown said...

That pic is kinda gangsta, huh, P!? LOL hehehehe Oh, yeah, I posted my 'On the Verge of goin' off' response.

Supa said...

Sheeeittt..I'm sick AND PMS'ing!!!!

Do ya thang, P.


Miss Ahmad said...

East Oakland in the house!!

Supa said...

Whew! A little clownin' is good for the soul. :)

The Phoenix aka ThatGirlTam said...

I dedicated the picture on today's post to P's fight...errr...PLIGHT! HAHAHAHAHAHAA...

The Phoenix aka ThatGirlTam said...

and that heffa called me out BY NAME (ain't she knowin that I'm on incognegro status??) DAAAAAAAYUM!!

P said...

Phoenix: Thanks for the luv. Good looking out. .

Yeah, she playing, busting folks out by name.

This little disabled thing is killing me. I know it's useful and beneficial, but I keep staring at it.

Dee said...

Y'all know i'm not fromhere right?????

Y'all also know I will shank a beeyatch right?????

I WILL hit the frewayy!!!!!!

People really got it twisted huh????

W.C.B.H!!!! wHAT?????


Dee said...

oh yea I 4got 2 say........what's the big freaking deal????? people take this blog thang 2 serious!!!!!

i'mma need ms. signal hill 2 get a name change quick!!!! there is a hater with the same name amongst us!!!!!!

we need 2 roll on her and CALVINS punk ass!!!! I aint 4got!!!!

Unruly Brown said...

ROFLMAO @ Dee kickin' in the do' and checkin' foos on the way in! Hoobangin' Chi style! Whaaaa?!

Carmell said...

dammit how do i keep missin stuff?

but you were right and whoever was trippin and not listening!

NegroPino™ said...

Meet me on my BLOG, its goin DOWN!!!!!!

Cocoa Girl said...

Why ya'll gang up on EP like that?



The Phoenix aka ThatGirlTam said...

dang, she called us

Cocoa Girl said...

Ya'll are such some damn blog bullies...LOL

I am seriously laughing right now. That poor thing...she seemed so innocent. And, then, there was Supa - trying to act like she don't roll with ya'll. LOL

Can't we all just be friends?!?! (seriously).

We actually kind of ganged up on someone on Cocoa Girl one day, but that person was in the wrong!

However, they did try that go up in other folks' blogs and regulate bit. I was pissed. It's my blog...not the got-damned NYTimes. I don't have to entertain all sides of opinions!

Still, go and apologize...LOL

Supa said...

Do I know ya'll?

Supa said...

Who are you people? And why do you keep saying my name? Who is this Supa you speak of???...

Unruly Brown said...

@ Cocoa comin' up in here with jokes. LOL Hell naw, I ain't apologizin' to that fool or her dumb ass friend. Both them b*tches can STFU and lick my knees post hours of making sand castles on a Galveston Beach. How's that for 'ick'? But I will say I have no intention of going back to that blog again.

The Phoenix aka ThatGirlTam said...

Awwwww sookie sookie now!!! Storm AND The Phoenix R.N.THE.HOUSE!

Yeah...don't front on the WCBH (hehehe we're like a little internet gang now). And Supa is our gang leader (tryin to front like she don't know us).

I didn't say anything mean to her anyway...wait...or did I? No, but I called that Tera person a stupid

EmergingPhoenix said...

I'm honored that you felt this needed a separate post. I just wanted to say, that I didn't ask anyone I know to come to my defense. Nobody I know personally, reads these blogs. I am a grown woman, and can defend myself. I do appreciate all the people who did speak out in my defense, or at least felt that y'all were wrong, though.

Since you are probably calm, and over this by now (I hope), if you look back you may realize that I (like everyone else), was just responding with my opinions on the topics. By trying to shut me down, you were really the ones trying to regulate on someone else's blog. I said what I had to say over there, and that was really all there was to it. Which is why I didn't respond to any of you after that.



EmergingPhoenix said...

I should add, that it is to bad that you could only find negativity to throw at me, b/c:

@P - Although I am pretty much over and done with pop culture, you remind me of when I was a kid and loved to record myself being a radio DJ. I would report my opinion on the news, pop media, and introduce/follow-up the hottest songs and play it back for my friends later. Signing off, "This is Wild ________, coming to you HOT straight out of DC on W-K-Y-S." So I can relate to your blog set-up, and find myself, reading your stuff occasionally, just so I can read your sign off in the end.

@Tam - I really meant to make an effort to read your blog more, since you engage in Wicca. I have studied Wicca in the past, and have even lit a candle or two to ask the Goddess's for help or direction. As a matter of fact I just did a tarot reading for myself and the SO the other day, and found, that although I may be met with a lot of anger and obstacles along the way, in the end I can rely on my strength to carry me through towards my goals. Maybe you're like my bizzaro twin (which may explain the choice in name change)...fighting the same battle on the opposite spectrum, but still heading towards the same goal.

@Tia - I felt the need to address you, since you engaged in the convo. But really, I don't have much to say to you, because I have really not gotten a sense of you from your blog. Most of your intimate writing is unavailable to the public. Copyright infringement I guess, and understandably.

In the end, I don't harbor any resentment towards y'all. I am not a negative person, and I don't follow in anyone's footsteps. I create my own path...