Normally, I don't hoo-bang on folks, because I leave that to the experts more tamed in the sista girl art of telling it like it T.I.S.
A recent post that I read from time to time (a great post) by the way, always gave way to a blog war.
So, without further adieu, this is how it all went down. . . Blue comments-P, Black comments, other. The names have been changed to protect the innocent. (Myself). HAHA!
YAH, I'm first!
If you could only see my head right now, I feel like a bobblehead doll.
Whether or not what you said is positive or popular (and I think that it is both), hearing it from the horse's mouth is priceless. My name is not Cleo and I'm not a psychic, so I love hearing what men want.
And, I think this is simple enough and speaks volumes.
As for the cooking, I think that's especially good because you want to make sure that she cooked it herself, and knows what she is doing.
One dollop of sour cream, coming up!
Posted by: P Wednesday, May 03, 2006 at 07:25 AM
good list of suggestions! Love that list for a potential mate...
Posted by: Wednesday, May 03, 2006 at 08:10 AM
I always love to hear what a man wants. Some of the things you suggested are not appropriate for the woman who is just dating, though. Nor is it appropriate for a non-married couple, IMO. I think #2, 6, 7, and 9, are great for dating. I think #1 & 4 should be saved for the monogamous relationship. I think #8, can’t be expected of all women. In this day and age some women just won’t/can’t/SHOULDN’T (you’d be better off if they didn’t) clean. #3, 5, and 10 are definitely a benefit of marriage/engagement/or life partner (for those that don’t believe in marriage). You shouldn’t be giving out freak pics to a man who may not be the one. If he’s not, then you can expect your pic to be plastered on every media forum when the shit hits the fan. “Dropping it off” is something that requires a lot of trust and stability, afterall the woman is completely giving of herself when she does something like this. Every man loves a little freak, but women need to protect themselves first and their innocence. When you find the right man you both will be a lot better off if you saved these activities for him alone. Buying a man draws, is like claiming your territory. If you’re not sure if you’d like to buy the property why start decorating it…LOL.
Posted by: Wednesday, May 03, 2006 at 08:12 AM
I respect your comments - But I think that he is inferring what men want in a relationship. I think, we as women, tend to make things more complicated. I don't believe that if we were to put a list of things we want out of men, they would say "Well, no, I think this, that, and the other". They would be like "Is that what you want, Ok, cool".
If I want to learn how to cook, I'm going to ask Patti Labelle, Not Jessica Simpson. So, if I want to know what a man wants, I am going to ask a man, I'm not going to ask a woman who thinks she knows what a man wants.
Bottom line. This is not rocket science. I don't think many men (and again, I'm not trying to speak for them) would NOT co-sign to this list.
To me, this is spelled out better to me than wheel of fortune.
PS: Who says women are innocent? That's a social construct designed to make the male the predator and the woman innocent of all charges. Want proof? Look at the sentences these female teacher predators get for having UNLAWFUL SEX with children. Do you think that would happen to a man.
Look at what happens when a woman kills her children (she's mentally ill) versus a man (domestic violence)
As a matter of fact, I think you have provided me with the idea for my next post, so I thank you for that.
Posted by: P Wednesday, May 03, 2006 at 09:38 AM
@P - I think your response to me is totally uncalled for. If a man lets me know what he would like from me, then I think it is only fair for me to voice what I am willing to do, and how I feel about what he wants. This is an open forum, to open up dialogue and exchange ideas after all. Who are you to try and quiet me? I didn’t claim to know what a man wants, I simply stated what I, as a woman, am willing and not willing to do. Please don’t put words in my mouth. If I, as a woman, put a list out there of what I want, I would definitely like to hear how the men felt about it; what they thought was great, and what they thought was outlandish. How else will I grow? If we were all ‘yes men’, coming up in here nodding our heads, and agreeing with each other on every point then we would have no dimension. The goal should not be to think alike, but to act in our common interests. I think your denial of women’s innocence and use of the current media coverage of a few depraved women to support that, demonizes all women. We are different (men and women), we have different roles in our current society, and we shouldn’t forget that.
Posted by: Wednesday, May 03, 2006 at 10:30 AM
Your interpretation of what I said is incorrect.
Five short things:
1. I'm not going to engage in a blog war. Unnecessary.
2. I stated my opinions, and that is my right as well.
3. I'm not bitter about anything you said. (See number two).
4. I'm out.
5. You can comment after this if you want. I'm not interested in getting the last word.
This is K-PAT talking now.
Bitch, please. This is HIS interpretation of what a man wants. And, considering he IS a man, I think he is the expert in the field. Hell, no wonder why the brother is on the verge, all those directives you gave. Do this, do that. Do half of number one, do two thirds of number four, FUCK!
I JUST TOLD HER ASS that I respected her opinion. But I thought maybe I was stupid, so I decided to look up the word "Respect".
Respect: a relation or reference to a particular thing or situation; remarks having respect to an an act of giving particular attention : CONSIDERATION: high or special regard : ESTEEM the quality or state of being esteemed:expressions of respect or deference.
And who the hell is she telling folks what should and should not be said on their blog: Re: Um, I always love to hear what a man wants. Some of the things you suggested are not appropriate for the woman who is just dating, though. Nor is it appropriate for a non-married couple, IMO.
You dayum right IMO. Opinions are just like assholes, everyone has one. So why are you telling me what I should and should not feel about women. Too much Lifetime. Now, my approach with speaking with her was not to slash her down or clown her. I was just indicating that this is what a MAN said that A MAN wants from A WOMAN. I'm sure that all of the denominations are interchangeable. Hell it's like a FICO score, you win some and you lose some. Doesn't mean you have to do them all. The brother was just laying down some general criteria from a man's perspective. Take it or leave it. I chose to take it, she chose to toss it up like a salad. And that is her right. But DO NOT go hoo-banging on me over some bullshit, I gives a dayum this is some old school Southern Cali ghetto Comptonetta girl coming out of me.
You got me mixed up. You better ax somebody.
By the way, if in fact YOU, who seems to have a hair up your ass, decide to come by, take a detour and see how a genuine phoenix brings it to the table.